Since Heather has been so successful with, "Coversations with Jessie," I thought that I would start a little reoccuring section of my own. Here you will find interesting conversations between strangers that I overhear throughout my day.
This particualr conversation took place at a Mexican resturant in Sacramento. A woman and her friend were having a conversation about the woman's ongoing relationship saga. I will just give you a snipitet seeing as the conversation went on for the full half hour that Ryan and I were there...
Info: Woman has shared that she is in love with some man she is seeing but he will not commit. He regularly tells her of other women that he is going on dates with. She met him online. She has broken up with him three times but can't stay away... and they have only been dating since July.
Woman: I invited him to go see a girlfriend of mine in San Francisco. I told him should think about whether or not he wanted to make a commitment to an overnight trip with me yet, but, he said he would go.
Friend: Really.
Woman: Anyway, we went and had a really nice time. But then he tells me the following week that my friend called him after we had left and invited him over for the following weekend.
Friend: NO! Did he go?
Woman: Yes.
Friend: That bitch! [I would like to point out that no blame is put on the guy who AGREED TO GO but that the friend is a bitch for inviting him]
Woman: I know! I mean, she was my best friend. I could not believe her—stealing m my lover like that [interesting choice of words].
Friend: Why would she do that?
Woman: Well she's 34—just turned 34—and is not married and really wants kids. In fact, [hushed tones] she told him she was on birth control and she isn't. [we have now clarified the fact that, yes, her lover did sleep with the friend]
Friend: [equally hushed tones] No!
Okay, at this point you are thinking... what is the big deal? Woman has boyfriend, friend trys to steal boyfriend, woman shares with another friend. Oh-no people—it gets better. Turns out that she met her "lover" online at the end of June. It also turns out that she was married at the time and SEEKING OUT an extra-marital affair. What the heck is wrong with people! Here was my favorite part of the conversation...
Woman: I mean, I told him, "I think that you are judging me." Of course he said no. But I told him that just because I was having and affair with him was no reason to judge me as a person.
Obviously not.
Also, he is looking for someone that is, "right for him," and she thinks that that is crazy. I mean, you should just look for someone that you have fun with. Disregard the fact that he is an active bike rider, backpacker and runner while she is a couch potato... that is something you can work around if you like the person. Yeah, he shoud be taking relationship advice from a woman who seeks out a lover online BEFORE telling her husband that she wants a divorce. Oh, I almost forgot to mention—she has a son. Although her friend was quick to point out that she made a wise descision seperating from her husband so early in her son's life because he probably wouldn't even remember them together. Great.
I repeat...WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE! Having an affair—bad. Actively seeking one out—worse. Seriously.
